Having a good relationship doesn't mean you have to have sex. But whatever you do, whether it's kissing, touching or having sex, it should always be something that you both want to do.
Sex is meant to be:
Sex isn't meant to be:
Remember, if you've been kissing or touching but don't want to go any further, that's ok. Kissing is not a contract.
Trust and communication
The most important thing in a sexual relationship is that you trust the other person and you feel like you can communicate with them.
If you are considering a sexual relationship, or if you are in a sexual relationship, ask yourself:
Someone who loves you should respect your right to decide if and when to have sex.
If you don't feel ready to have sex, you could say "I really like you but I don't feel ready to have sex yet".
Sex and Pressure
"I kept on pushing his hands away but he just put them back there, then I just froze, I couldn't say anything, it was horrible".
What if someone has touched you or made you touch them in a sexual way, and you felt like you had no choice?
You might have
No-one should force you into any type of sexual contact. In fact, this is sexual assault, and it is a crime that can be reported to the police.